I have said this once and I will say this over and over again…
Self love is one of the most important lessons we can learn in life, and one of the most important practises that we should adapt into our everyday lives.
Because if you can’t love yourself, if you can’t find happiness from within you will forever be disappointed.
Loving yourself is not selfish, in fact it is quite the opposite.
Do not rely on someone else to bring joy and excitement into your life. It is not fair to put that much responsibility onto another person when they are merely trying to find their own way too.
There is a reason you maybe bouncing from relationship to relationship. And there is a reason they do not work out.
You are not taking the time to heal. The time to grow. The time to fall in love with yourself.
You are expecting so much from someone else, and when they turn out not to be the person you thought they were, or they don’t do as much for you as you do for them. You are once again feeling unwanted.
If you were to go into every relationship loving yourself to the best of your ability, then when it came to an end it wouldn’t be so hard. You would bounce back quicker because you make yourself happy, you are not waiting around for someone else to do so.
Self love doesn’t mean that you can’t do things to make others happy. Of course you can. Just make sure you’re devoting as much love to someone as they are to you. Don’t jump over oceans for people who wouldn’t even jump over puddles.
Relationships are a two sided thing, whether that be friendships or love interests. Do not change who you are to accommodate anyone else. Do not weaken your roar to allow others to be heard.
Take time to care and nurture yourself for the beautiful human being you are. You can love others when you love yourself. But you can’t love others if you don’t.
If you have just come out of a long term relationship, allow yourself the time to heal. The time to be able to look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself just how much you love you.