Are they a bad friend or a busy friend?
On our journey through life we encounter many different types of people. We make friends, we fall out, we make up, we make new friends, we distance ourselves. Sometimes we hold onto people for a lot longer than we should in the hopes that they will change.
But something that I have learnt with time is no one is ever too busy. You may be a busy person and have a lot to do, but if someone truly means something to you, you will always have time to fit them in.
As an actor, keeping on top of friends can be tricky. I could get a last minute job and have to reschedule, but I will always reschedule.
Noticing the difference between a bad friend and a busy friend comes apparent quite quickly. It’s very important to know the difference so that you are not wasting your time and constantly being let down. Or on the other hand you are not being too hard on the friend that is actually just busy.
A busy friend will always make the effort to see you, even if it’s just for a quick coffee before they have to run off again. A bad friend is never or very rarely available. They’ll just keep telling you that you should meet up soon, but never get around to it.
A bad friend will make excuses, but they have all the time in the world to see other people and do other things. Whereas a busy good friend will always have the time to fit you in somewhere.
A bad friend will tell you they’re going to call you… and then just won’t. A busy friend will always call even if it’s a couple of days later. This is ok, we all have a life to live and things to do but don’t waste your time and energy on those who are constantly making false promises. Or those who make plans and always let you down.
Choose your friends wisely, don’t let someone waste your time and energy. Spend the time you would chasing them on building stronger relationships with other friends.
If someone wants to be there they will. Being busy is just an excuse to make themselves feel better.